00:13:31 Alison Cardy: Amy: They're pretty sure that they should be able to figure it out on their own. 00:14:14 Tamara Arnold: There’s a tendency to over do it with self help 00:14:54 Tamara Arnold: Amy : Coaching teaches you to use your brain differently 00:15:45 Alison Cardy: We think we're meant to solve problems on our own. I'm really stuck in a spiral of thinking. 00:15:54 Tamara Arnold: Amy: I’m not stuck in my circumstances I’m stuck in my thinking 00:17:16 Tamara Arnold: I don’t know anyones core values that is I’m going to beat myself up until I get it 00:17:53 Tamara Arnold: Emotions are data 00:18:06 Alison Cardy: We don't think emotions. We feel emotions. How's your body feeling? 00:18:13 abraham: How does your body feel? 00:20:03 Tamara Arnold: Resonance and intuition 00:20:20 Tamara Arnold: Find a post of article that resonates with you 00:21:18 Tamara Arnold: Ask for what you want 00:22:35 Alison Cardy: Does it feel like freedom or imprisonment? There's a huge intuitive component to this decision. I can't get enough of them. Willingness to learn, to act on it, trust the process. 00:24:10 Alison Cardy: The discomfort of the process is far less onerous than the pain they're in. 00:24:13 Alison Cardy: Tamara: 00:25:32 Alison Cardy: I am so ready universe. Bring me all the things. And yet inside we're blocked. Constipated unicorns 00:25:53 abraham: Constipated unicorns. lol 00:26:22 Amy Steindler: Hoarders of experience, emotion 00:26:36 Amy Steindler: if I do these things OUT HERE, then things will change 00:27:29 Alison Cardy: You will know exactly what you want to do, yet every single day you find an obstacle. 00:27:52 Amy Steindler: Symptoms: obstacles/gult-shame-self sabotage train/physically know you’re blocked 00:29:08 Alison Cardy: I'm going to label this as being out of the body. 00:29:27 Amy Steindler: everything is solvable, but it comes with discomfort 00:31:13 Amy Steindler: “I don’t know where to start—I’m not ready—out I go!” 00:31:54 Alison Cardy: The emotional intelligence piece is absolutely imperative. 00:32:30 Amy Steindler: What am I feeling ??? 00:33:31 Alison Cardy: Feeling, what do you want? 00:34:21 Amy Steindler: the common denominator is myself 00:34:24 Alison Cardy: The willingness to go within. 00:34:35 Amy Steindler: Be hungry to go in 00:34:51 Amy Steindler: Resistance as a flashlight to growth and expansion 00:35:11 Amy Steindler: “Don’t you want to know what’s on the other side?” 00:35:27 Amy Steindler: Ixnay on the words “I don’t know” 00:36:59 Alison Cardy: Kathy: 00:37:46 Alison Cardy: Some people know the conflict, but they don't have a grasp of the characters. 00:37:54 Alison Cardy: You find out there's a lot more to it. 00:38:06 Tamara Arnold: Finding out who your characters and how they relate to the other characters 00:38:23 Tamara Arnold: Outline is the roadmap of where I am going 00:38:31 Tamara Arnold: Also want the freedom to change things as I go 00:38:45 Alison Cardy: When the characters start taking on a life of their own, they do some surprising things. 00:39:17 Amy Steindler: Even if you think you know your characters, you’re gonna find out something new 00:39:20 Tamara Arnold: It’s very sur[rising, you may think you know your characters but you find something new 00:39:50 Tamara Arnold: Misconception: I’m going to write a book and then I’m going to be famous 00:40:19 Alison Cardy: I'm gonna write a book and then I'll be rich and famous. Writers can look like they're daydreaming all the time. 00:40:25 Tamara Arnold: Theres a lot more to writing than writing 00:41:56 Amy Steindler: Its like watching the story appear on the page 00:42:17 Amy Steindler: I’m connecting the dots, I’m channeling the book 00:44:09 Alison Cardy: It's definitely not the type of outlining we did in high school. 00:44:19 Tamara Arnold: Accountability partner to ask me how’s the book going 00:44:40 Amy Steindler: Writing is more than putting the words on paper 00:45:29 Tamara Arnold: Need to be able to stick to the project 00:45:47 Tamara Arnold: Willing to be able to change the story for the benefit of the story 00:46:11 Tamara Arnold: We all fall in love with our characters, they can do no wrong 00:46:24 Tamara Arnold: Stephen king calls it killing your babies 00:46:30 Amy Steindler: You have to be willing to let go