00:43:16 Amy Steindler: Breaking those barriers in my mind and pursuing what I want to do 00:43:24 Tamara Arnold: Kathy quotes - breaking people pleasing is Breaking barriers in her mind 00:44:03 Tamara Arnold: Parents grew up with the vision of the starving artist - “go find a real job” 00:44:22 Tamara Arnold: Having fun creating the world 00:44:27 Amy Steindler: “I should be out there doing something useful” 00:44:38 Tamara Arnold: This is going to be a bestseller 00:44:52 Tamara Arnold: I have more people encouraging me now 00:45:30 Tamara Arnold: Frustrating when someone comes and squashes your dreams, especially your parents 00:47:52 Tamara Arnold: Still looking for something that I fit in. 00:48:18 Alison Cardy: They wanted something else for me. They had the image of the starving artist. Anything artistic was frowned upon as a profession. It's very frustrating. Someone comes out and squashes your dreams. Y;know what, there's no one left to tell me what to do. 00:48:41 Tamara Arnold: A couple years after my mom passed I said there is no one left to tell me what to do 00:49:08 Tamara Arnold: I like creating the world and the characters 00:49:36 Tamara Arnold: Last week I was able to write three chapter in three days 00:50:53 Alison Cardy: I now get a lot of encouragement. I want to read that when you're done. It feels really good. I like creating the worlds and the characters. Experiment with when do the ideas really start flowing. 00:54:32 Alison Cardy: I am a nighttime person. Oh it's definitely sticking around. They should go for their dreams and there really is a way most times that you can actually do both. In between customers I could think aout my plotlilne and my characters. 00:54:36 Alison Cardy: Amy: 00:54:39 Tamara Arnold: Amy quotes: 00:55:09 Tamara Arnold: I had parents who didn’t really see me, didn’t really know me 00:55:34 Tamara Arnold: Our parents have ideas that are more about them 00:55:49 Alison Cardy: I did not believe I could sustain a coaching practice that would be lucrative. It was really about belief. 00:55:54 Tamara Arnold: The only reason I couldn’t do it was because I thought I couldn’t do it 00:56:01 abraham: I couldn’t do it because I thought I couldn’t do it. 00:56:28 Tamara Arnold: You should or you have to honour someone else’s expectations 00:57:45 Alison Cardy: You want someone that's been down that river a few times before to guide you. 00:58:04 Tamara Arnold: When people are looking for a mentor to guide them, you want them to have experienced what you are looking for 00:58:21 Tamara Arnold: Before and after is about pivotal oments 00:58:24 Tamara Arnold: *moments 00:58:30 Tamara Arnold: How do we recognize them 00:59:30 Tamara Arnold: My biggest pivotal moment was when I quit my job as a financial advisor to become a coach 01:01:20 Tamara Arnold: Develop the courage was the scariest moment 01:01:53 Alison Cardy: These are about pivotal moments. How do we get better at creating the experience for ourselves of these pivotal moments? I was pretty successful at everything I every did. I really quit with no clue what I was going to do next. The idea that I was so driven by ego. It was always I have to prove myself. Eventually I realized I couldn't live my best life if I was living someone else's version. We are conditioned against ourselves. I can tell you it was the scariest thing. So who am I? Oh my god? What will people think? Now my job is to teach people how to develop that courage. 01:04:13 abraham: Didn’t realize what a prison that was, having to know. It’s okay not to know. 01:04:31 Tamara Arnold: I think people are looking for a sense of ease in their lives 01:05:20 Tamara Arnold: People want to change from their base emotional state of anxiety 01:07:22 Alison Cardy: It's so frightening and disorienting to pull yourself out of that. She felt like she was supposed to know, supposed to have all the answers. Making that switch to having the questions was so difficult for me. You come by all of this honestly. This is not your fault. This is just where you are. I didn't realize what a prison having to know was. She left the job and is really successful and super happy where she is now. Most people are looking for a sense of relief and ease in their lives. I was so raw and so tired and so scared and confused. I had no sense of myself. People want to change their baseline emotional state. We all think we're sposed to go it alone. I'm a coach dammit, I should be able to figure this out on my own. It changed his day-to-day experience to where he took the promotion and hired me 01:07:24 Alison Cardy: Tamara: 01:07:56 Amy Steindler: now I’m a free bird. So. That’s a thing. 01:08:11 Alison Cardy: I'm a highly sensitive people and an empath. 01:08:22 Amy Steindler: Lived most of my life picking up others emotions thinking they were directed at me 01:08:40 Amy Steindler: spent most of my life numbing myself, and didn’t have a mentor or guide 01:09:08 Amy Steindler: Ability to read energy wasn’t considered a gift—considered something was wrong with you. Potentially medication was the best fit 01:09:40 Alison Cardy: Do you know how much angst in high school? I spent most of my life numbing myself. Claiming the authority of being an empath. Wasn't considered a gift, considered that something was wrong with you. I lived a life of looking at what wasn't possible. 01:10:06 Amy Steindler: I ran away from home when I was 16, went to Brazil at 17 (get me outta here), got pregnant, thought “This is going to solve all my problems” 01:10:18 Amy Steindler: Call to Jesus, take you down to your knees moments 01:10:48 Amy Steindler: How could you do that to your own child? In that space, my awakening happened. Awakened to God, goddesses, spiritual gift 01:11:06 Amy Steindler: Came to the point where I wouldn’t even answer my phone 01:11:32 Amy Steindler: Shift perspective to see only the possibility it would happen 01:11:58 Amy Steindler: When the universe is offering you something, it’s not always gonna come in the box you think it will 01:11:59 Alison Cardy: It got to a point where my son and I literally had to break up. The relationship was toxic. Take you down to your knees. It was in that space that my awakening happened. I awakened to my spiritual gifts. Shifting dramatically to see only what is possible. I didn't even see that as a limit. I started to shift my perspective to see only the possibility of this happening. It's not always going to come in the box you want it to come in. 01:12:20 Amy Steindler: What if I can’t pay it back? Of course I’m gonna pay it back! 01:12:53 Amy Steindler: IThis is the year I’m gonna write a book and help people and make six figures. 01:13:10 Amy Steindler: Chopra: Intention is what you want Attention is what are you gonna do to get it. 01:13:34 Amy Steindler: Claiming my flag in the earth 01:13:44 Amy Steindler: Started serving moms with children with mental illness 01:14:10 Amy Steindler: Still my choice whether I listen or not 01:15:11 Amy Steindler: Spirit is trying to bring you everything you want right now 01:15:24 Amy Steindler: What we want already exists in some form 01:15:43 Amy Steindler: Create the space for what you want to. Land in your energy body 01:16:02 Alison Cardy: Do you do that? Can you take somebody's credit card? Of course I'm going to pay her back. Only seeing in possibility. Intention is what you want. Attention is what are you going to do to get it. -Deepak Chopra I was reaching out to people. Clarity comes with movement. It's really key to have spirit speak to you. It's still my choice whether I listen or not. Spirit is trying to bring you everything you want right now. Our desires and wants technically exist in some form. 01:17:26 Amy Steindler: We’re born with a piece of stardust in our hearts 01:18:25 Amy Steindler: Tamara told me the answer right away, it just took me a few months to get there. 01:19:31 Amy Steindler: Do you feel wealthy? Such a big word. The answer was no, at first. I didn’t look at that list and think “wealthy” 01:19:42 Amy Steindler: Wealth isn’t coming from outside ourselves 01:19:51 Amy Steindler: Claiming that as the source of you