00:21:11	Alison Cardy:	Being able to touch base with certain people and not having an expectation.
Just getting curious.
Doing the deep coaching w/ Alison to really understand how I was blocking myself.
We moved boulders out of the way that were in my path.
Bring it out into the light, look at it, turn it around.
I was holding th ekeys to unlock myself out of my little birdcage. The power was mine to do that.
I was making a statement by making that financial commitment to myself.
Help yourself Helen. If you imagine prison bars in front of you. You can drop them.
The team part of that was so enriching and inspiring.
You kinda crack the code a little bit.
I was out here in Montana where I have my mobile office.
Ohmygosh, maybe I'm doing something wrong. Maybe it's crazy what I'm doing... walking in nature... Bingo, you got out here to get away from those prison bars... they just have a different view of what's possible and what's safe and what constitutes freedom.
You have to be vigilant about the diet of interactions your having wit
00:26:49	Alison Cardy:	Your spirit is not being rained on by the more fearful, less confident voices that are always around us.
You're always exposed to the rain that's coming down...
Anytime you hear the word should, that's what's dangerous.
What's my intention behind helping them? Do I want to solve, tell, or be there for them to help them grow?
Intention, Growth, Results/ Impact
Is our intention to help someone grow or do we just want to solve it?
My perspective rally is, just listen, just be there.
It's the ppl that were listening to me. The ppl where we develop trust. They were able to give me feedback.
They've got to want to do it too.
When I first started out I just wanted to help everyone.
I was working so much harder than she way. She was not invested.
I couldn't do it for her.

00:29:20	Alison Cardy:	Most ppl don't even care what happened a year ago.
--We'll give it a minute to pass through
00:30:13	Alison Cardy:	We get locked into fear. We want to be helpful because we're afraid.
00:33:25	Alison Cardy:	Just getting curious about it.
00:33:31	Alison Cardy:	Are you solving or are you listening?
00:45:54	Alison Cardy:	Maybe if you just want to set that down.
Wow, this feels like a therapy session.
The self-management part of how we're feeding into something.
Gets so invested in others that they lose themselves... not investing in themselves in a way that is healthy.
Tuning in and setting boundaries is amazingly healthy.
Listening can be healthy, but it can also be enabling.
Burnout in non-profit - all the time every day.
In mission driven orgs, there's no end of what you can do towards the mission... it's a black hole.
If you're noticing that you're working so much and giving so much... and you're not feeling the value.
You're not giving yourself something that it needs.
What is possible as a boundary? What is possible for self-care?

00:47:46	Alison Cardy:	I never want to be that person who says, 'no I can't do it'. Just think about where that leads.
You will attract all the work that the ppl who have set boundaries don't want to do.