00:19:50	Alison Cardy:	I loe it when someone does for me what I can't do for myself.
Mentors... there's so many blind spots that I don't see necessarily of my own.
views need to be synchronized.
I don't always see the things that they may see.
Learning how to help myself first.
The ability to ask for help is always a very challenging thing.
How do I even tune in to be aware to make the ask... I spend so much time in the 'I got this mode'.
Taking the pressure off...
and then to let no be ok.
I didn't ask the last 9 times, but that doesn't have anything to do with this time.
If everyone who loves to give never receives then we have no one to give too.
I didn't realize that's something I actually asked for... that worked out.
When I got married I didn't ask for enough help.
What kind of help do I need here? Who do I go to in this moment?

00:27:25	Alison Cardy:	What I did was I borrowed his thinking.
Which hadn't occurred to me to have them fix their mistake.
Then I get very mad at you b/c you don't give me the kind of help I want or need.
They have a yurt that's down by the river.
Self-reliance (gets in the way)
The joy of succeeding in that self-reliance
The challenge of finding and repairing... oh, I can do this.
I get just as much satisfaction from someone else getting it done as myself getting done.
Hanging a door is not an easy thing to do.
Sarah's rule of thumb for hiring out - if needs to be done one time, then I hire it out.
00:43:50	Alison Cardy:	It gets uncomfortable... when someone is always giving.
I start to feel a little bit small, imbalanced... when they've done much more for me without me balancing it out.
What value it might give them for doing it.
The way I was raised was just to take care of myself and to be pretty independent.
Next year we're gonna have to learn to accept and ask for a lot more help.
We have to re-learn that help is not a weakness, it's a maturity.
A person does need help.
… how hard it is for them to bring me stuff.
How difficult it is to receive the help we ask for.
You have to give up some control to get help.
You're in control. I'm just helping you to control it in a way that is more useful for you.
My clients think that they're stupid for not knowing.
00:48:08	Alison Cardy:	The realization that I don't know everything.. and how could I know everything.
How do we get ppl to access the help that is here?
Being real.. the less facades you have protecting yourself.
You may have to lower your façade to a great degree.
Always have a list of 10 things that you need.
So that you're able to ask for help all the time.
I do that with thrift shopping.


00:48:41	Alison Cardy:	I'm sure there's something here.
Treasure hunting for help.