00:20:51	Alison Cardy:	With the mentors that I've had when they're willing to meet me where I am, listen to me, and walk me through my challenge.
She guided me on my journey and showed me my hidden strengths.
Everyone has hidden strengths.
I suddenly started seeing capabilities I didn't think I had.
Multiple ppl who have guided me.
Not feeling stuck or rigid in the plan I set for myself.
Listening to other ppl and taking advice from other ppl.
When you go to a univ. and speak, why not offer coaching as well?
Being ok what might actually work.
I've seen her and seen her path and seen how she's walked that... done uncomfortable things themselves... allowed ppl to think that they're weird or doing things wrong... there's space for me.
Sex standards that are the mind blocks that we've created.
Every individual has the same capability b/c we were born the same.
They could retain their job and fight for justice.


00:25:18	Alison Cardy:	They are like a lamp. If you bring the match stick, it will have it's own light.
...strongly influenced by their academic mentors.
They know so little that they will absorb so much... the rate of growth and appreciation is so high there.
When I've missed on helping ppl... is when I assume they know what I know.
Ppl tend to underestimate their knowledge.
Pretend it's your mother... what does she know about science?
An employer is not going to assume your trustworthy or hardworking... unless you tell them.
00:28:06	Alison Cardy:	One of the biggest mistakes I made, was to say 'you get. you're so smart'.
I assumed that I was the only one that needed to get caught up.
Let's ask the students what do they want?
The students knew more than the professors.
We need more real life experience.
52 CEOs to come in every weekend, and that added the whole value.

00:36:47	Alison Cardy:	If our egos are the leader of helping ppl, then you can't help b/c you can't listen.
Oh, we don't need your help... we're having to help you.
How do ppl take advice and how do ppl give advice?
That's one of the only ways your going to grow is if you admit you don't know it all.
Other ppl to observe you in diff environments, when you're happy and sad.
Everybody is right in their opinion.
I help ppl to see that the perspectives are diff... nobody is totally right or totally wrong. They are looking from a diff perspective.
How you deliver feedback has so much to do with how it is received.
Have you heard this before? Chances are they have...
You may want to consider some of the info you're hearing, and if these patterns make sense to you, you might want to consider this.
I go back and ask a feedback on my feedback.
If we give feedback and then ask, what do you think I just said?

00:44:52	Alison Cardy:	Ppl will talk and nobody will give any feedback, no judgement or reaction.
That's when you know the safe space has been created when the unpopular thing has been said.
It's really important to have an open and honest relationship with each other.
Setting that foundation at the beginning is really important.
Our actions speak louder than our words.
What is actually helping and what is pretending to be helping to get praise.
Step in with an intention to help... and see if we get told not too... which can be vulnerable.
Are you anticipating the needs of your customer?
You are listening all the time. 
My mom domesticated me to anticipate my wife.

00:48:20	Alison Cardy:	Children while growing up test their limits all the time.
Meet them where they are, but show them where they can go.
They need to be open to that growth.